Topic: Q3 - Do you have a “Recovery Toolbox?" Let's fill it with tools to help you cope, tools to shift your thinking and reactions thus preventing you from acting out bottom-line behaviors in the future. As you become more accountable for your behaviors and actively work to change them, your fear and shame subside. What recovery tools have you collected so far? (i.e.: HALT, the Power of Five, "Let Go & Let God", & Positive Affirmations, etc.) What other recovery tools would you like to put in it? Discuss.

Topic: Q4 - Your courage to complete Step Four doesn't come from the absence of fear but your willingness to walk through it. Ponder and discuss the recovery saying: “F-E-A-R stands for Face Everything And Recover.” Put this affirmation in your Recovery Toolbox.

Topic: Q5 - On page 41 re-read the two paragraphs starting with “Moral inventory of ourselves....” Are you willing to look at your past behaviors without being critical of yourself? or harsh? or abusive? Is it okay for the uncomfortable feelings you have been avoiding for so long to come up to the surface now to be healed? What is your Step Four focus? What is your direction? Discuss why this inventory must be only of yourself. Read the section on page 122-123 “What is the difference between blame and accountability?” Think about being a “rescuer.” What are the imagined benefits of rescuing? How does the rescuer eventually end up in the "Poor Me!" victim position? Discuss the recovery saying, “There are no victims, only volunteers.” o What does a victim get out of being a victim? What does a victim believe to be true? What does a victim sound like? What do they say? How do they act? How is a martyr the same as a victim? Why is it a maze of their own creation? o What does a perpetrator believe? What does a perpetrator sound like? What do they say? How do they speak? How do they act? How is a perpetrator the same as a victim? What does a perpetrator get out of criticizing or attacking the victim? o What does a rescuer believe to be true? What does a rescuer get out of rescuing? What do they assume? How do they speak? How do they act? How is a rescuer setting themselves up to be the victim? Have you ever found yourself flipping around all three corners of the triangle?