Topic: Q13 - Read the section “What are boundaries?” in Chapter 5, pages 110-114. Also obtain a copy and read the pamphlet "Setting Healthy Boundaries" from your CoDA literature person. Effectively creating, communicating, and maintaining your own healthy boundaries is essential for your recovery from codependency. Put these seven boundary categories in your Recovery Toolbox: Physical, Emotional, Intellectual, Spiritual, Sexual, Time, & Money. Why is it your responsibility to set & maintain them? Next time you watch yourself getting angry, confused, or uncomfortable, ask yourself “Where do I need to set a better boundary?” Share your insights with your sponsor or co-sponsor.

Topic: Q14 - Discuss the concept of external boundaries. Think of your physical body as you exist in time and space. What is a personal comfort zone? Think about your physical boundaries at home, work, traveling & recreation, etc. Include the dimensions of healthy exercise, nutrition, plus having healthy time & financial boundaries. What physical boundaries are you comfortable with? What physical boundaries are you uncomfortable with? In what ways would you like to take better care of yourself in these areas. Share your insights with your sponsor or co-sponsor. Relationship Boundaries can also be based on safety & trust: [Concentric Circles boundary category model: Acquaintances, Companions, Friends, Close Friends, Intimate Partner, My Selfhood, My Loving Higher Power.] Review the last two paragraphs on page 111 finishing on page 112. Write about your sexual relationship history. Was it selfish or not? Was there any sexual abuse or boundary violations? What are healthy sexual boundaries? Discuss. (Extra Credit: On page 103 read the section "What is Thirteenth Stepping?”)

Topic: Q15 - Read pages 112 &113. Discuss the concept of internal boundaries. What is self-containment? What is emotional safety? How can you ensure that your self-worth is not diminished by another person’s words or behavior? Do not internalize others' words, messages, or actions until you can determine if any of it is hurtful or not. If it is loving, you can bring it into your heart. What visualizations can you use to protect yourself? Memorize these five internal boundaries & put them in your Recovery Toolbox: o I know where I stop, and you begin. o I know what is my business and what is none of my business. o I know the difference between my emotions and others’ emotions. o I recognize what is and what is not my responsibility. o I am aware what is and what is not comfortable or safe for me. What comes up for you when you hear these boundaries? How do you feel? Visualize yourself saying these boundaries to other people. Also visualize stating these boundaries silently to yourself when you are fearful or communicating with an unsafe person. Write your insights in your journal.