Topic: Q11 - Re-read pages 42-45 beginning with "Step Four may appear overwhelming.... “It states that Step Four is a form of emotional surgery requiring gentleness and care. We are learning to separate and appreciate our innate goodness from our unhealthy thoughts and behaviors. Visualize yourself going through emotional surgery, always treating yourself with gentleness and care. Write about what came up for you during your visualization. Starting today, put aside all self-condemnation.

Topic: Q12 - Re-read pages 42-45. Read the list of codependent behaviors on page 44 aloud to yourself, slowly, thinking about how each might or might not have been in your life. Write in your journal what came up for you. There are always two sides to every situation. We have all reacted or responded to mistreatment by others and so it’s easy to rationalize or justify some of our codependent behaviors. How does this only serve to maintain and continue your codependency? Are you willing to look at your part in the dance?

Topic: Q13 - Read the section “What are boundaries?” in Chapter 5, pages 110-114. Also obtain a copy and read the pamphlet "Setting Healthy Boundaries" from your CoDA literature person. Effectively creating, communicating, and maintaining your own healthy boundaries is essential for your recovery from codependency. Put these seven boundary categories in your Recovery Toolbox: Physical, Emotional, Intellectual, Spiritual, Sexual, Time, & Money. Why is it your responsibility to set & maintain them? Next time you watch yourself getting angry, confused, or uncomfortable, ask yourself “Where do I need to set a better boundary?” Share your insights with your sponsor or co-sponsor.