Topic: Q12 - Re-read pages 42-45. Read the list of codependent behaviors on page 44 aloud to yourself, slowly, thinking about how each might or might not have been in your life. Write in your journal what came up for you. There are always two sides to every situation. We have all reacted or responded to mistreatment by others and so it’s easy to rationalize or justify some of our codependent behaviors. How does this only serve to maintain and continue your codependency? Are you willing to look at your part in the dance?

Topic: Q13 - Read the section “What are boundaries?” in Chapter 5, pages 110-114. Also obtain a copy and read the pamphlet "Setting Healthy Boundaries" from your CoDA literature person. Effectively creating, communicating, and maintaining your own healthy boundaries is essential for your recovery from codependency. Put these seven boundary categories in your Recovery Toolbox: Physical, Emotional, Intellectual, Spiritual, Sexual, Time, & Money. Why is it your responsibility to set & maintain them? Next time you watch yourself getting angry, confused, or uncomfortable, ask yourself “Where do I need to set a better boundary?” Share your insights with your sponsor or co-sponsor.

Topic: Q14 - Discuss the concept of external boundaries. Think of your physical body as you exist in time and space. What is a personal comfort zone? Think about your physical boundaries at home, work, traveling & recreation, etc. Include the dimensions of healthy exercise, nutrition, plus having healthy time & financial boundaries. What physical boundaries are you comfortable with? What physical boundaries are you uncomfortable with? In what ways would you like to take better care of yourself in these areas. Share your insights with your sponsor or co-sponsor. Relationship Boundaries can also be based on safety & trust: [Concentric Circles boundary category model: Acquaintances, Companions, Friends, Close Friends, Intimate Partner, My Selfhood, My Loving Higher Power.] Review the last two paragraphs on page 111 finishing on page 112. Write about your sexual relationship history. Was it selfish or not? Was there any sexual abuse or boundary violations? What are healthy sexual boundaries? Discuss. (Extra Credit: On page 103 read the section "What is Thirteenth Stepping?”)